By Sarrah Beaumont

It would be boorish not to invited your ex in-laws to your second wedding if you have close ties with them especially if you have been widowed. All throughout the years that you reared your young ones, without your husband, their son, they were there for you. Should you ignore sending your ex in-laws your wedding invitations?

The Matter with Ex In-Laws

You alone can decide if you are going to invite you’re your ex in-laws to your second wedding. If you have been widowed and remained close with your in-laws, you should invite your ex in-laws. This happy event is not only for you and your groom, but also for your children who will be having a father figure in their lives. Sharing the big day with the people who have supported you emotionally and financially during the rough times is just proper. So send them those wedding invitations!

However, if after the death of your spouse, your in-laws did not bother to call or give a hand when you were down and out, there’s not need to bother sending them wedding invitations but you can inform them; after all your children are their grandchildren but it’s your wedding and your second shot at happiness. Even if your partner is amenable to the idea of having your sister in-law and her parents at the wedding, don’t risk it. You can never tell what might happen then.

But there are cases when the bride has not severed ties with the in-laws and theirs is not the usual in-law relation but friendship strengthened through the years. Not inviting your dear in-laws would be unspeakable. Like your dearest friends, your wonderful in-laws would be happy to be there at our wedding.

Dealing with the In-Laws

If you are divorced, you have all the reasons not to send wedding invitations but if you have remained on good terms with your ex and with your in-laws, you can consider inviting them. Have a talk with your ex and sound him out about the prospect. But if you had a nasty divorce, why invite your ex and ex in-laws? If a second wedding requires that all signs of the previous wedding – engagement ring and wedding ring should be removed, so what’s the reason for inviting the exes over?

Discuss ex in-law issues with your new partner. He must have his own problems too. An insistent sis-in-law who demands that he update them and invite them to every event in his life can be big problem. At this point, he must let the interfering ex in-laws know that he has moved on. In addition, the presence of ex in-laws can put your families and friends in an awkward position so there’s no point at all to invite them to your encore wedding.

You can do this too if you feel that your ex in-laws are just being nosy. Be firm when informing them about the second wedding; you can give the excuse that it’s a private affair with just a few of your friends and your parents. You don’t have to mention the wedding invitations.

Those wedding invitations are meant for your closest and dearest family and friends, not for exes and ex in-laws unless there is a good reason to have them over, with the consent of your new partner of course.

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